photo: todd johnsonThe worst that can be said of a person is that they “did not payattention.”William Meredith
I’m not sure how I came across theabove quote, but it has stayed with me for years. I often quote Meredith in my communicationtraining seminars since so much of “mis-communication” is about“mis-perception,” about not paying attention.
So the question for this post issimply this: do you and your partner payattention to each other? Especially nowas you’re planning your wedding?
Like many of the questions I poseon this blog and in my books, this one seems embarrassingly simple because ofcourse you pay attention, isn’t that what it means to love someone?!
I’m going to maintain, though, thatit’s easy to stop paying attention without even being aware, not because you’vestopped loving your partner, but rather, because you’re so busy. And because you love each other and becauseyou’re busy, it’s easy to think, “we’ll he knows I love him,” or “she knowsthat I support her.”
The thing is, “knowing” isn’t enough. We need to be reassured, especially in timesof stress.
So, how do you let your partnerknow that you’re paying attention? Whatdoes your partner need to do in order for you to be reassured that he or she ispaying attention?
Remember: texting conveys info that is brief and to thepoint; it doesn’t convey feelings. It’snot a guaranteed reassurance that you’re paying attention.
On the other hand, simply lookingat your partner and not being distracted with multi-tasking is a great act ofreassurance!
The most reassuring of reassurancesare conveyed in mindful little ways.
Hiç yorum yok:
Yorum Gönder