This has been a creative year forme and I’m excited to share that I’ve written my second book: Ever Thine, Ever Mine, Ever Ours: Choosing The Right Words For Your Vows.
While this isn’t a step-by-stepinstructional guide for writing your vows, I hope that it inspires you as yousearch for the right words that give your partner a glimpse into your heart andmind at this moment in time.
Here’s an excerpt from the book. ..
Enjoy!
The heart of your ceremony is theExchange Of Vows . It’s why everyonedrops what they’re doing so as to come to your celebration.
In terms of how you say your vows,you have. . .
FOUR OPTIONS
Option #1: You select aversion of the traditional vows (seeBonus #1) and then your officiant phrases the vow as a question, askingeach of you, individually, “Do you take ______to be your wife/husband, etc.” and you each respond “I Do!” The problem, though, is that if someonesneezes, the vow is gone!
Option #2: You repeat afteryour officiant the traditional vows you’ve selected. Hopefully, the celebrant will be kind andspeak as slowly as you need!
Option #3: You write yourown vows. Many couples, though, areafraid to write their vows for fear they’ll sound cheesy. I can honestly say that I’ve never heard vowsthat I thought were “cheesy.” Granted,some were more eloquently worded than others, yet all were poignant. How great it is that you have someone in yourlife that compels you to search deep in your heart for words that express thepassion of your commitment.
Here’s the thing. . .you can benervous about hundreds of eyes staring at you, but you don’t have to be nervousabout saying something lame. Call me adie-hard romantic, but I believe the committed heart isn’t able to offer cheesysentiments!
Option #4: Some brides andgrooms find that just the idea of writing their own vows puts tremendous pressureon them. However, even though they’re nervousat the thought of writing their own vows, they wish they could. This fourth option is a combination of boththe personal vows and the traditional vows.
Sometimes couples want to take amoment to say something personal to each other, though it’s not couched as a“vow” vow. These are simply words ofgratitude, appreciation, and love. Withthese personal words, you’re not “vowing” anything; rather, you’re simplygiving voice to some of the sentiments that are deep in your heart. NOTE: Your words must bewritten down. On your wedding day, noone expects you to have anything memorized, not even your names!
After you each have said yourwords of appreciation, then, with a nod to tradition, you repeat after theofficiant some version of the traditional vows. Or, if you want, you can simply say “I Do” when the officiant poses thevow as a question.
This fourth option relieves thestress of “how do I write my vows?” Since these are words of love, there isno “right” way or “wrong” way. And if, beforethe ceremony, you or your partner (or both of you) realize that you’re not upto saying your own words, then you let the officiant know and you’ll simply usethe traditional vows and no one will know that you backed out of your originalplan.
Which option to choose? Simple––the one that makes you feel most comfortable. You should never do anything in your weddingthat will make you feel uncomfortable or cause you potential stress.
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